The Future of Spoiled Children

I have no intention to make the first post on this blog as a gossip. haha But oh well, this is for information purposes. There's this guy I know that have impregnated a girl three times already, just within a 3-year period! But before that, this guy had already impregnated three other girls, each of them has one child w/ him. All these, (the six kids) they were all created within a 6-year period, so meaning, that guy had one new child every year. It's crazy. But it's true. I was able to have a conversation w/ the guy and he was really the happy-go-lucky bad-boy type, and has forever been on 3rd (or 2nd) year college. Also had a chat w/ this guy's mother, who was so devastated w/ his son's doings but she got nothing to do but to accept these and accept him-- he's her child, of course. Just let it be. Besides, she really can do nothing because she's not w/ his son. She had worked all her life abroad just to give his 'only child' (and I suppose he's also a 'spoiled child') all the things he needed. ALL THE THINGS.

But I can't believe I am sharing this kind of article, like who am I? I might just be another spoiled brat myself! But this is important. And I'm just sharing this article that I found online (http://expertscolumn.com) coz I am one concerned citizen. As a parent, I believe this might help my fellow parents prevent further production of spoiled children which in time transforms into ROTTEN ADULTS (Oh, so they have a future tense for 'spoiled children' huh!) Let our children also be aware because the effects are DEVASTATING and IRREVERSIBLE both to themselves, their poor parents and to the society.

As a child, I can relate somehow. Well again, speaking of spoiled-ness, I admit that I am one of them. Slight (hehe tatawad pa?) Yes coz I wanna get what I want, especially when I know that my father (when he was still a dollar-earner seaman) gives me whatever I want no matter what I do. But not at ALL times. And it stopped when I myself became a parent already. I am saved, somehow. And at least I'm not to the WORSE type of spoiled child maybe because afterall, despite the fact that I married and got pregnant early, I was able to finish college and have a professional license before that. And I never did and never will take illegal drugs and is never ever sexually promiscuous. And by the way, the guy's 7th child is coming out soon, with a new girl. Wow!

HERE'S THE ARTICLE:

Signs of a Spoiled Child

  

Overindulged and pampered children may grow up spoiled, unhappy and unable to handle life’s challenges. Psychologist Bruce Baldwin calls these youngsters the "cornucopia kids" because they expect life to be like a cornucopia, or horn of plenty — providing them with an endless supply of good things they don’t have to work for."

In this age the number of spoiled children has grown to epidemic proportions, although parents of spoiled children would rather not admit this. Children with cornucopia complexes grow up with the expectation, based on experience, that the good life will always be available for the asking —without effort and without need for personal accountability." Thus when they face the adult world, "cornucopia kids" fail as they are unable to handle challenges, tend and get fired from jobs and are more likely to turn to alcoholics or drug addicts.

Much of the blame, according to Baldwin, must be heaped upon parents. Parents have a tendency to choose to favor or prioritize the development of their career over than the emotional growth of their children. Because of this, with the meager time spent with their children, they "shower" the kids with things and favors to make up for the neglect, hoping to ease their guilt.

Spoiled children are a product of parents who lack discipline. Nothing happens even if the youngsters misbehave. And since a parent, or a hired nanny, does everything for the children, the children never learn to be responsible.

Here are signs of a spoiled child:

1) They get bored easily and have trouble entertaining themselves.

2) They expect to get everything they want when they want it, and complain bitterly if they don’t get the best.

3) They have little sincere compassion or sensitivity to the needs and feelings of others. They respond only to their own needs.

4) They have little self-discipline, so they’re prone to try things like liquor, drugs, promiscuous sex, and other excessive self indulgent behaviors.

5) Deceit and lying are normal. The child learns to lie knowing his parents will want to see through the lie.

6) They don’t expect to pay for the consequences of their actions.

7) If the going gets rough, they quit. They are unable to follow through long-term goals such as saving money or keeping a job.

It is very important that we make our children experience our love as well as how to handle disappointments and responsibility. Parents have a great responsibility in preparing children to become responsible adults.