WIFEYDIARIES: Dealing with a DOTAholic Husband

COMPUTER GAME ADDICTION

I am getting pissed of with married men or family guys who are DOTA addicts. They spend most of their time with the game and with the same barkada, most are not "familiado" or if ever they are, they have nannies and helpers and labanderas. They are more pushed closer to their addiction as their barkadas push each other to play and spend more & more time playing the game.  Instead of getting excited for the RD (Rest Days) for some QT (Quaity Time) with family or friends, they are so eager to add up "butt sores" on their asses as they play DOTA (for 10 hours or more!) They isolate themselves to others who can influence them to be a better father, lover and goal-driven, responsible, mature individual. They simply waste their time playing the game. They could have made a career in sports or arts or any income-generating bussinesses or just simply have a date with the wife. They could have strengthen their family life or relationship with their loved ones. Having DOTA addiction is not that far from having other addiction like alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, gambling, forbidden sex, and other disgusting vices available out there. They all bring out the worse in oneself.

WISH I HAD ALL THE TIME TO PLAY IT TOO
HAHAHA Yes, I am just not against computer games. In fact, am one of the very very rare girls who play StarCraft. At first I practiced at home, when we had our new computer and it's cool, my brain becomes more strategic and alert. And if I play it at school (i mean, the computer shop atbang sa school. haha), feeling-hawd na kaayo ko whenever the small boys make tapok on my back to see my game, a girl player's game. hahaha Those were the days, I'm a mother now, no time for silly games. But if i had the chance, I'd really love to play this DOTA too and to finally enter my hubby's world. (Naks! ka swerte naman talaga ng husband ko for having a wife like me. hehe Just kidding). #Pagyaytime lang naman, eh kaso wala. I say, it's not very good to play online games because this can be very addictive but it's not also bad to learn it and play with your partner because this too can be considered as your bonding moments. AGAIN, PAG-MAY-TIME. Will wait for it... Candy Crush lang muna ako. hmmm

MY DOTAholic HUSBAND

Back to the addiction. My husband is one of them. Another kalerky wifey and hubby commotion is up and I was only triggerred because of his labada that was left inside the washer for a day, and I hate clothes smelling like shit. I was happy na sana that he volunteered to help out with my piles of family laundry. I cannot possibly hang dry all those clothes while babywearing (our baby is teething and even if I am away for like one second, he'll know!) and with the added task of babysitting our hyper kid, there's just no way out. Not even a chance to eat full meals (the hunger triggered me to get mad!).  And we were unable to attend holy masses because he spends hoursssssss w/ DOTA. Puwera gaba.

A HELPLESS HELPER-LESS WIFE

We are helper-less (can't afford nannies/kasambahay) but I hope I am not the only one playing the role as the helper here. My gosh, I am married to become his wife, not his muchacha. Di naman din kasi porque he puts money on the table, only he has the right to have his chill time. Heck, I haven't even have videoke and beer for a year now, and it's fine w/ me. All I need is some assistance so I could do basic human needs: eat, bathe, take a shit (defecate). This No-nanny mom-of-two life I have is making me crazy if I am just all alone with this. 

THE BARGAINING (a.k.a. 4th stage of Death)

And take note, hubby's no businessman but whenever he "defends" these kinds of activities (which is just so normal for all the other guys I know, because bilang lalake, they "deserve" it daw), that whenever he makes time pass by through computer games, his defense would be, "well, it's better than drinking beer all night long" And whenever he drinks beer all night long, (this was our BROADCASTED problem last February, remember? HAHAHA I backed-out from our supposedly church wedding) he'd defend, "well, beer is better than having another woman." Winner!!!

THE ACCEPTANCE (5th stage of Death. haha Oh dear! This is as shitty as Death, isn'it?)

Of course my soft heart says that it's a win-win situation (na lang) for us. Di pa ko ana? di daw xa mag beer og di daw mang-babae (mang-lake lang?) hehe Sorry I can't english them (this is a blog, by the way.)  It's just freakishly weird that he has this big problems about his PAST TIME while here I am, so running out of time (esp. now that I need time to prepare for our baby's baptism & birthday which is just weeks to go. HUHUHU), that's so shit on my part. He always sees to it that when he's home, he's already so tired so that he'd just jump into our bed and have a good sleep. Why don't we have sex everyday na lang? haha (I missed that, we used to do it 3x daily but because of DOTA shit, I'm running out of it-- sorry, I'm a  very sexual woman lang jud.) But I'm starting to think he's slowly transforming into a gay. hahahah His DOTA playmates are mostly gay din kasi. hmmmmm. Hehe

WHY MEN AND WOMEN ARE FROM DIFFERENT PLANETS?

There's a huge difference between the sexes. Men are less mature than women. Any other wives and moms out there can attest, relate and testify to this BITTER truth. But the men, young and old, find this really really FUNNY coz they can relate (uuuy, aminin!) and that they find it amusing for women to always fuss about their guy's "selfie" acts (yung tipong ang lalake lang ang may karapatang mag enjoy). But well, #dawatdawatlang... This is a wife's life. Gotta deal with my "Young Mommy Life Adventures" and accept the shit. I signed up for this, to get married to become a nanny & labandera and there's no turning back.

THE WEAKER SEX

For this happening (nag OT na naman si banakels sa DOTA while I am sooooo needing help for hanging the labada, cleaning the room, eat a full meal, manage my online business, so many orders declined na tuloy,huhuhu etc). Because of all tgese, it's a shame but I freakingly texted my husband's workmates to stop "inviting" him for computer games because I need him here to assist me and I hope that they could understand even if they can't relate w/ this Family Life shit. Hahaha Taray ni mader! Nag-text jud murag mama nagita's anak. But the shame isn't on me. Another living proof of the rumors I heard from veteran wives and moms, that the male species are the weaker sex. I hate to be feminist, but MEN really are the weaker sex. Slow to mature, slow to realize ehat's important, and so easy to give in to YOLO-ing. 

WAIT FOR IT

I may sound so boring but sometimes being boring means growing up or just simply learning to face the "family-man" kinda life, and hashtag that #nganongnienter. Hehe Ok, so this will go to my "young mommy life" blog catergory, something to laugh at when we get older and hubby's mature, finally, in God's time (women said it's a minimum of 10 years.) Oh well, maghihintay ako magpakailanman. 

OH GOD ENLIGHTEN ME. PRAYING FOR HIS FAST CONVERSION (& REHABILITATION).

MOMMYDIARIES: Reflecting on my Financial Wizardry

Maalaan na jud kog wakwak ani kay kadlawn manglaba og manghalay. Before mangmata ang mga amo, dapat human na. Dapat sad humana kog kaligo (xettt katugnaw raba jud!) kay if di ko kaligo og una, never na jud ko kaligo throughout the day. Hegs xa, but mami-miss ko to someday. ;)

Bisayang blog lang, wa pakoy pamahaw ok? haha So ayun, ang mga "Bossing" ko, minsan lang sila bata, minsan lang din ako magkakaganito. Hindi mahirap alagaan si bunso (in fact, super easy baby lang xa) as compared to AC na kelangan talaga super duper high ang energy ng babysitter (ako, siyempre, walay yaya nga maka survive niya) but now that dalagita na siya, I can feel na malapit na ma-ubos ang oras ko. Hindi ako mamamatay. haha But I will face another phase in life and it'll be sooner than I think it is coz super fast ang time. I had a goal of having two kids by the age of 25 and before 30s, dapat may stable job AND stable income-generating business na ako. I have four more years left. Sana maka habol sa quota. By the age of 40, I have two teenagers na so dapat triple na ang aking pera niyan, mga panuhak nga bag-ong tubo, mangayo na pod ni og mga high-end gadgets, need muna magpa rich ni mader, yung tipong ala-Napoles ang determination & wit sa pagpo-provide for her kids. Oh davah, naging role model na xa. Ako na jud. But siyempre, not like her na by ALL means ang peg, even if billions ang korakoton. 

Atoa, simple lang, hago2 din pag may time then pamuggasay then apply my super kuripot talent and sales talk. hehe Help me Lord. Please. Just a few years to go before my deadline ends. I want to afford this and that and those ASAP. Sana naman matulungan din ako sa mga words of wisdom nila Robert, Francis, Bo, and all other fianncial wizards. Alam kong isa  din akong financial wizard di lang dahil nakasaad sa aking zodiac sign. But there must be a reason why I am always the Class Treasurer even since Grade school and nung high school, kugihan kaayo ko mamaligya'g bisa'g unsa, borloloys, e-loads, etc. Then my online Saori-Sari store and Likhanisaosao came up. But on hiatus pa muna coz di pa kaya sa budget ni hubby and most of all, sa "time" coz I prefer to "career" talaga this motherhood thingy (ang buyaaaag, super enjoy ako esp. now na Smart Parenting ang peg) during the most crucial years of a human beings' life (newborn to toddler, magbasa kayo ng Psychology books para malaman niyo bakit). After that, since kids are not kids forever naman, I will have my time to SHINE.

HALA ka grabeng pag reflect2 samtang nag-hayhay lang. Hahaha Good day everyone! ;)

BIRTHDAYS: AC's Colorful 4th Birthday Celebration

A little story about AC's birthday this year, my English skills are just kinda off today, sorry sa bisdak inato blogging. It's September 1st, the first day of the “ber” months, meaning, it’s my chid’s birthday once again! But few days back, just when I was so ready to prepare for our firstborn's 4th birthday party, on payday, hubby's card was 'eaten' by the ATM and sweldo is a week delayed. Yes, no sweldo, and he only had pocket-money left on hand. If only you saw his face, he was like a little kid na kahilakooooon kaayo ka wa gitagaa'g candy.haha Grabe twist of fate and change of plans, this isn’t new naman so keri lang. There was one time that hubby had a VA (vehicular accident) a few days before AC’s birthday and I felt the same awful “zero-balance” feeling.  And knowing me, as a very strict treasurer (a.k.a. sigurista, wa-is, kuripot, barat), I would not let our 'untouchables' (savings account) get touched, that's for our bunso's 'always-moved' baptism & next year's tuition fee, I am always a fan of full-payment kasi. So yun, a little budget has become our daughter's simple (family lunch date) celebration for her birthday, plus of course w/ the help of the beloved grannies.

Photos

Again, special thanks for the grannies to back us up. The “kinakusgang apo” enjoyed her “party-party”, as she has been talking about this even a few weeks back. 

Last week, she even made a drawing of her own birthday party! Starring ang family. Can you see baby Coy (the small stick-figure), Mamita (with the big eyeglasses), and daddy (the curly one)? haha With all the balloon galore, party hats, cake, etc. that she has been repeatedly talking about. And, here's the party... The drawing turned into reality. ;)

As for the acknowledgement… Thanks everyone! 

Hubby's parents (MommyLa & DaddyLo) bought the delicious lechon manok, drinks, ice cream & cake from S&R and some “pampahaba ng buhay” delish pancit from Gorio’s.

S&R shopping

Simple handa.

It was a hot day, so our cake icing melted.

My parents (Wowa & Papa) bought the balloons, hats & candles from Panolee’s. These were AC's requests, including the gift: her very own android tablet from DCLA but it’s super Ok, AC can now play her fave games and apps & soon, she’ll be on Instagram too!

And of course Mamita's presence is still here, as represented by the boneless pork belly from Beko’s Biik. Of course, AC's great grandpa wouldn't call it a birthday w/o a litson, who would anyway?

Thanks to the grannies, we had food on the table. It's funny when our only visitors came (two nuns, our family friends), wala pang laman ang table, only empty plates. haha Good thing, the food arrived just right on time & we had a pina-abtek lunch party. We had some photos (sorry lang talaga, most are blurred, we’re kinda little hungry. hahaha)

It is a party indeed, my artistic team helped making the dining room look awesome. Hubby (& AC) pumped balloons then my mom & sister put-up the balloon-filled backdrop. Sister also got the chance to have a solo pic coz as the photographer, she wasn't included in the group pictures.

Few weeks ago, I already made a hand-painted “happy birthday” bantings/banner out of old art paper & used my recycled tarpaulin layout for her 3rd birthday (2012), AC's toddler photo collage tarp, good until her 6th birthday (ibang layout na naman sa 7th birthday party). Sulit, tipid, memorable.

Hubby and I had fun manuaIly pumping these balloons that I bought at Panolee's after attending one of Coy's playgroup session. It's just near The POD, where we have our play group. The assorted (size & colors) balloons are aroung P1 each (tag piso, coz a pack of 81 pcs. is worth P85). And so, while DIYing the balloons (whe two kids are awake, coz they love to join the fun), I also discovered another talent: balloon arrangement, & it's not easy pala talaga ha, as in! I now know why balloon decor fees are so $$$ but we had fun. Kahit papaano, I made these decors, some smiley that can stand on the floor and a flower-flower arch. Ok lang ba? I could have made more if wala akong kalong-kalong na baby while DIYing these.

Then the celebrator also took part. She personally hand-painted that #4 (just used masking tape to form the number) and also painted her name ''A-L-o-i-S-e'' while we were reviewing "name writing" for her exams last week. And so on her birthday, that's what we made as her name banner. She was also the one who volunteered decorating it to our backdrop, hanging them using a ribbon & sipit ng sampayan. As in she grabbed a chair and insisted that she do the decorating. Ayos, potential DIY assistant na 'to! ;)

Isn't it fun? Things happen for a reason & it isn't always 'how' or 'how much' we celebrate, but 'why' and 'what' we celebrate. Thank you Lord for the gift of life (AC) and of 'family', that's something great to celebrate. We may not have everything we wanted but we got just everything that we need. It’s up to you how you add colors to life.